The "Yes" - woman

how being a yes-woman nurtures your relationship

love is the basic foundation of a relation that exist between a man and woman.yet,to keep this relationship successful one needs to reflect on its  various aspects and gain insights to the nature of its two participants.
women do want to date ,marry and be with a better version of themselves and be impressed by the qualities of their partner,but men don't.
when a man comes back from work he wants positive,soft,enthusiastic,supportive,happy energy .that's not what they get at work,not what they get from their guy-friends as well.men want to feel good around the woman,to feel attractive and interesting for her.they want a "Yes"-woman.
A "Yes"-woman:

• She puts her life partner first
• She is easy going about the small stuff,like:"shall we go to a movie?"-"sure","shall we rather stay home tonight?"-and again she goes"sure".when the little stuff becomes a constant negotiation,this is what wears  men  down to the point that they say:"is it worth it?it is no fun."when there is no "NO",how delightful life is together with such a woman.again,imagine your life partner is that way with you...
• She is a giver.she knows when to make a compromise/and it is time to make a compromise like almost constantly,-)))/but if he makes an inappropriate remark in front of her mother,or unsuccessful choice of restaurant for their Saturday night,or he forgets her birthday,...etcetera...she does not go mad,she forgives and she gives him a further chance to be her best choice of a man.and she remains his best fan.when a man is around a woman that is such a giver,it makes him want to give as well.a reasonable guy will say to himself:"I have never had it so good.what an idiot would i be to walk away from it."
• She lets the man be himself,she does not police him for the things that he thinks.She makes no attempts to make him think the way that simply suits her better.
• She puts his consistency and kindness above his wealth.his character above his charisma.
• She focuses on the things that determine a healthy,long term relationship,like laughter,trust,generosity,value,compatibility.

And if he wants to go to a bachelor's party tonight rather than try her  home made dinner-she says:"Yes"
And if he wants to talk to attractive women while at the party with her-she says:"Yes"/she knows whom he loves/
And if he wants to keep nude pictures of his ex under the bed-she says:"Yes"/above all it is only pictures,-)))
And if he wants to go away with the guys rather than to a concert with her-she says:"Yes"/there is always going to be another opportunity/
And if he doesn't appreciate how great a "Yes" woman is with her emotional maturity and emotional generosity-that is when he loses.
The power of the "Yes"-woman lies in walking away from a relationship that doesn't give her what she needs.
May be not every man is evolved enough to appreciate a woman like that,but the one that is,will be highly interested to keep her and the relationship.so,for us, women in love,is there a greater way to be effective than to be a "Yes"-woman to the man we adore?

                                      





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what was i thinking?

Most thoughts manifest regardless of their being positive or negative.therefore it's worth the effort to develop the habit of observing the thought stream governing our daily actiions and inactions.let's begin with asking our- selves the questions:
1.Are my thoughts my own or do they belong to my mother,father,spouse or boss?
2.Is my inner voice my own or does it belong to someone else?
3.Is my self talk supportive of me,my dreams and goals?
4.What are  some of the main beliefs that run my life?
5.What thoughts are constantly on my mind?
6.What images are attached to them?
Whatever we focus on will expand in that direction.persistant thoughts are powerful.
so,what if having done the above observation,we discover that most frequently it is fear or anger that shows up,expressing itself in feelings of inner discomfort and in outward manifestations such as  binging,pleasing,avoiding ,procrastinating or whining?
Any thought ,that we could label as just uncomfortable is a subtle form of fear or anger.So,what to do to combat the feelings created by  fearful or angry thoughts?
Here is a simple example of a guided self talk,that is easy to apply on a daily base,even in the most hectic daily shedule,if we just would bother enough to stop and spot for a moment.
We approach ourselves with quiet attention ,directed towards our recent feeling  and we ask:
1.Can you .please,turn up a little bit higher,so that i can really become better aware of you?
2.What are you exactly talking about?
  What is it that you want to tell me?
  What do you need from me?
3.Listen carefully.Give it attention instead of turning away from it and ignoring it.
   Thank it,for showing up.
The purpose of this exercise is to tell our subconscious that:
"I am not afraid of this information i just processed.It is just a sensation."
4.Then counter act,correct its statement,turn it around,verbally upgrade it,give it your arguments,so that you like its newly acquired content.
5.Notice how lightly you feel once you showed courage to face your thinking process and to adjust it so that it matches your desired outcome rather than your current state of reality.

Positive people focus mostly on what they want,how they can be better,what can be learned or gained from any situation in their current reality.
"What was i just thinking?" is the question that can become our radar for orientation.
To detect and acknowledge what it is that we are dealing with, in the present moment?
What is it that we are focused upon in the present moment.And change it,if we do not like it.
How we think can lead to outcomes that lie anywhere between bliss and devastation.
Which one would we like to  chose for ourselves?...
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